A Trip To the Past

My family and I went on a discovery trip from 12 to 13 September 2016.

Besides my family, there were five other related families that went on the trip.

We wanted to visit the old house of Mr Liew FeiRu (刘斐如) who is my late grandfather.

The old house is still standing and is located at Gongzhou (公州), a village in Dapu (大埔).

Dapu (大埔) is a county in the prefecture-level city of Meizhou (梅州) and Meizhou (梅州) is part of the province of Guangzhou (广州).

The description of my final destination may give you a better idea about the large geographical size of the People’s Republic of China.

The people on that trip represent four generations of Mr Liew’s descendants and they range between the age of three years old to 87 years old.

The ancestral house was initially occupied by a family of friends.

They did not have to pay any rent but they have to look after the house.

Unfortunately, these residents were drawn over time to move to the big cities and our old house had to be abandoned.

For years now, the old house that once stood proudly as a shelter for many of our ancestors was being left to derelict and ruin.

Although our old family friends made it a point to clean up the place before our arrival, I could see that the paints were chipping away.

Some of the doors and windows were no longer usable.

The roof was leaking and the pillars were rotting away.

As I walked from room to room, I could feel a wave of sadness coming over me.

I could hear voices from the past – voices harkening to better moments spent in that house.

Moments that became part of memories, some of which were turned into lessons for life.

These lessons shaped lives and the generations that came after them.

If you reflect on your past life, you’ll realise that places that were close to your heart have played a major influence on your life.

The experiences that you went through in those places; including some of your homes and workplaces, and your responses to these experiences have shaped your personality and behaviour.

Those of us who are privileged to inherit such places or memories of such places will have to seriously consider how we want to preserve these places.

More importantly, we need to preserve and recount the stories that were connected to these places and the lessons from them.

We may have to share these stories again and again so that those who come after us can be inspired to rise up to pursue greatness and claim their places in life.

When you move on from this world to a better world, you will leave behind your story.

That matters more than many things you’ll leave behind.

I pray that your story and the places in the story will be worth telling,

Your story will inspire others to craft their stories to have beautiful endings.

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Life Lessons From Horses – Part 5: Life Is A Team Sports And You Win Better As A Team Player And Leader.

Horses live and travel in herds even if they are confined in a range.

They know that they can lose their lives in a split second.

That’s probably why they operate as a herd to warn each other of imminent danger and stay alert together in response to danger.

They have a way to communicate with and depend on each other for companionship and support.

They have an unwritten allegiance to stand by and help one another that will probably put many humans to shame.

Horses have a way of proving their worth to one another to become a leader of the herd.

Interestingly, a dominant horse is not the horse that commands the most respect and exerts the most influence.

The leader of the herd is the horse that looks after the others well and ensure their safety and survival.

The leading horse keeps watch over the herd and looks after the needs and well-being of the herd.

As humans, we will do well to learn from horses and learn how to lead and manage a team.

And how to operate interchangeably as either an effective leader or an effective follower depending on the task, situation and people involved.

Bear in mind that if you don’t know how to be an effective follower and a team player, chances are you cannot be a good leader.

As a leader, be mindful that your job is to be a servant to others.

Be aware of the vision, needs and concerns of your team members.

Look after their best interests and reach out to bring out the best from them.

Help them achieve desired outcomes and make them feel that they did it on their own.

Even without your presence, they can continue to pursue a higher level of achievements.

Unless you have a heart to love and serve others, you do not qualify and deserve to be a leader.

As you bring out the best from every member in your team, you’ll also be motivating yourself to become a better person and leader.

As a result of working as a team, your life can become more meaningful, exciting and fulfilling.

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Life Lessons From Horses – Part 4: Build Your Resilience To Help You Succeed.

Horses are highly adaptive animals and they are able to adjust to any environment and condition.

They have a strong survival instinct that can help them find food and flourish even during tough times.

I believe this ability to thrive is the reason why the Chinese has a saying, “马到成功.”

What it means literally is that wherever the horse goes to, it can enjoy success.

In other words, when you wish someone, “马到成功,” you wish for that person to achieve success rapidly.

Horses have a sense of courage and a pioneering spirit that drive them through wild and unfamiliar terrains to seek new grazing grounds.

During winter, they are known to dig beneath layers of snow to find food and other means of sustenance.

It is said that horses have what is called a soft eye.

Instead of focusing their sight like a telescope, they can see things around them like a radar screen and see them from different angles.

They use this ability to stay alert and respond quickly to any risk and danger.

At the same time, they look out for each other in the herd and help ensure each other’s safety and survival.

Like horses, you can learn to develop a spirit of resilience.

On the journey of life, there will be many challenges.

Challenges are some of the best teachers to help mould you to become better leaders and shape you for better things.

Therefore, do not wish for smaller or lesser challenges.

Instead, develop a resilient spirit that will help you go and grow through difficult times.

As you strengthen your resilience, it’ll help you prosper during good times.

Capitalise on silver lining in every dark cloud and flourish through even the most challenging situations or circumstances.

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Life Lessons From Horses – Part 3: Live A Balanced Life To Live A Full Life

I had the good fortune of riding on a few horses in different parts of the world.

The last time I did it was up in the mountain near San Carlos de Bariloche, Argentina.

It was a scary but an exhilarating experience.

My family and I rode through a forest, up steep slopes, across streams, and on hilly and rocky tracks.

One thing that I learned is that the horse that I’m riding on reflects my behavior because I am controlling it with a bridle.

Horses are generally stable-footed and balanced animals.

If I’m going to ride smoothly and reach my destination, I have to be stable and balanced too.

If not, I can lead the horse astray.

I can also stumble the horse and accidentally cause it to throw me out of the saddle.

It reminds me that when a person wants to learn Chinese Kung Fu, he has to learn how to “站马桩.”

In other words, he needs to learn how to stand like a horse; stable, balanced and secure.

If not, he can never be a good martial artist.

In the same way, to ride life effectively, you have to live your life in a stable and balanced way.

Every area of your life can affect each other.

How you perform in one area affects how well you perform in other areas of your life.

If one aspect of your life is not right, every other aspect of your life can go wrong.

As they say, you can only be as strong as the weakest link.

Unless you guard your weakness, you may fall prey to the vultures of life.

These vultures refer to people who will take advantage of you for their own benefits.

If every area of your life is right, like a good horse, you can race better, faster, and more smoothly on your journey to success.

When your life is balanced and well-managed, it will also be easier for you to be successful in your work and other endeavors.

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Life Lessons From Horses – Part 2: Charging Forward With Passion, Energy and Spirit

When I think of horses, I can see in my mind a magnificent animal standing tall and proud with heads lifted high.

I imagine its passion, energy and spirit.

Throughout history, many a man has been drawn to the beauty of its presence, its powerful body, and the speed and grace of its gallop.

That’s probably why the Chinese send wishes to their loved ones and friends and hope that they’ll have the passion, energy and spirit of a dragon-like horse (龍马精神).

Like a horse, you too can be a pillar of comfort, strength and encouragement to others.

To do that, you need to love yourself and pursue excellence in accordance with your passion, talent, strength, and other resources.

As you find your place in life and develop the necessary knowledge and expertise to excel in it, you too can stand tall like a horse and be proud of your achievement.

As you press forward to share your life and make a positive difference to others, you can create waves of passion, energy and spirit around you.

Inspire people around you to be the best they can be and perform at their best.

The ability to bring out the best from others is one of the hallmarks of effective leadership.

It’s also a quality that will command respect, affection and loyalty.

And help the world gallop to a brighter future.

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Life Lessons From Horses – Part 1: Thriving In The Moment.

pI love horses and all the wonderful virtues that they stand for.

These virtues can be valuable lessons to teach us how to be successful in life.

Let me share some of these lessons with you.

  1. Thriving in the moment.

Horses are sensitive to their circumstances and environment.

They are mindful of every sight, sound, taste, smell, and sense.

Their keen sense of awareness warns them of imminent dangers.

And leads them to find places for food, water, and other means of sustenance.

A horse will finish grazing a patch of grass before moving to another patch.

It also stays focused until a task is completed.

Like horses, focus on the “here and now.”

The “here and now” is all that you have for that instance and then it will be gone forever.

Therefore, be acutely aware of space, time, energy and matter, and how they converge to the present moment.

Be fully present – body, soul and spirit – at every moment.

Focus equals to life.

In other words, what you focus upon shapes what you make out of your life.

Focusing is galvanizing your intention, passion, thought and behavior into a deep and intense force.

Tberegire, ommit yourself to focus on worthy targets and for a worthy cause.

Focus on the magic and the best of the “here and now.”

Be mindful of and appreciate the beauty of life.

Seek to be enthralled by nature’s captivating masterpieces.

Catch the wonder around you with all your senses.

Wonders that no humans can reproduce and these wonders are mostly within your reach.

Soak and indulge in the tapestry of colour, shape and hue.

Listen to the sounds in the air.

Dance to the music of nature’s symphony.

Saviour delicacy and exquisiteness in every bite of your food.

Enjoy the wonders of aroma around you.

Immerse yourself in the myriad of emotional showers.

Feel your heartbeat.

Embrace yourself fully at every moment.

Listen to the melody of your soul.

Raise the melody to a rousing crescendo, and rhyme it in sync with the symphony of life.

Be in touch with our Creator and praise Him for all the goodness within and around you.

Be present for every person you meet.

Inspire him or her to greatness.

Live, love, learn and laugh at every given moment and do it to the deepest possible level.

Express words and carry out deeds that can only give life.

Leave a trail of beauty and wonder.

To do so, change your focus or delete the non-essentials from your focus.

Create a radar screen to direct your mind and put things in perspective.

Keep your mind open and be acutely aware of what goes on within yourself and without.

Respond to relevant signals that will create positive outcomes.

Learning to focus on the most important “here and now” can change your life and shape your future.

Carpe Diem!

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Journey Into The Brain

Recently, I went on an interesting journey.

A journey to explore landscapes of my brain and try and find out how it functions.

Along the way, I also conducted some mental experiments.

What a journey it was.

The brain is the most amazing gift from our Creator. How you use it is your gift to Him.

It is more complex than the most powerful computer and more sophisticated than the most advanced factory.

I also discovered something awesome about it.

The brain is neuroplastic.

Like water, the brain can be shaped in many ways and even in an instance.

And adapt itself and be improved to handle new situations and challenges.

Strange as it may seem, you make use of your brain in school but you hardly learn how it functions and how to make full use of it.

Yet, it is the control hub of every part of your being.

You are literally what your brain tells you.

Your perception of life is in reality the perception that your brain tells you about what it perceives about life.

The brain is the source of your emotions, thoughts, words and actions.

It determines many of the outcomes in your life.

When the brain is not properly looked after and used, a host of sicknesses will most probably occur.

An unhealthy brain cannot help you live a healthy life.

The brain is one of the most complex and complicated systems in life and it can be controlled by you.

On the other hand, it can also control and confuse you, and condemn your future.

Sadly, the brain is oftentimes set on an autopilot mode, and you become absorbed by daily activities that are driven by it.

As a result, instead of managing your brain and activities, your brain and activities manage you.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the joke, The brain is a wonderful organ.

It starts working the moment you get up in the morning and does not stop until you try to impress the girl of your dream the first time.

The same thing happens when you stand up to give your first speech in public.

It’s sad that most people complain about their looks more than about their brains.

Looks may not stop you from achieving what you want.

However, when something goes wrong in any part of the brain, things will go wrong in other parts of your being.

Eventually, those things will have a negative impact on your life.

That’s why you should do everything possible to protect and look after your brain.

Make full use of it and direct it in the right direction.

Protecting the brain is not just the function of the skull. It also comes mainly from you.

Let me share some random thoughts on how to nourish the brain and optimise its performance and results.

Like muscles, the brain can be strengthened when it is put to good use.

The more you use the brain and the wiser you use it, the better it becomes.

Learning and subjecting your brain to and through positive challenges will also improve its efficacy.

When you input more comprehensive and diverse knowledge into your brain, it develops more capacity, ability and agility to join more dots in your mind.

It will generate more radical and creative breakthroughs.

When you focus on a subject matter, it will strengthen your mastery of the subject.

It will also help you enhance your resilience to complete the tasks and manage your life.

The paradoxical truth is that the more effective you use your brain, the more brain cells you will develop. If you don’t, you might even decimate your brain cells.

The brain can be connected to other minds, and influence and be influenced by them to become a force for good or for evil.

Its capacity and capability will tend towards the average capacity and capability of the brains of the people you mix around with most of the time.

The brain can be plugged into a Higher Mind.

It can tap on infinite wisdom and a limitless repository of knowledge to live at a higher plane of life.

How well you live your life has a greater impact on the well being of your brain than you can ever imagine.

It includes how well you think, talk, act, eat, breathe, and interact with others.

The way you live your life from a moral and ethical perspective will also have a direct impact on your mental and emotional conditions.

It has a major influence on the health of your brain.

The brain takes in information from within itself and from the environment.

You can choose how to interpret the information and use it or abuse it.

Every thought that passes through your brain causes a set of chemicals to be released in it.

These chemicals can enhance or deteriorate your well being.

Positive thoughts will enhance the performance and longevity of your brain.

Conversely, negative thoughts that are allowed to linger on in your brain and influence your life will cause its degradation.

It will also have a negative impact on the people around you.

In other words, your brain may not be you and you may not be your brain.

It may not always be on your side.

The mental view of yourself may not be a true picture of yourself.

Similarly, the ‘GPS’ in your brain may not be the actual territory.

Think about it.

None of us think in the same way.

You don’t even think in the same way at every point of your life.

So, how do you know that what you know is true?

How do you know you know?

How do you know you know that you know?

Think seriously about the way you think.

You cannot think negatively and live a positive life no matter how much you desire to have a positive life.

A good way to improve your emotional conditions is to use the brain to reach out to the people and environment around you, and value-add on them.

The brain can also be enhanced when you make time for adequate rest and recreation.

Having fun is a serious business when it comes to keeping your brain calm, clear and collected.

Optimize the brain’s working condition by exercising your body regularly.

The brain can also be improved through personal meditation, prayer, diaphragmatic breathing, and deep reflection.

If the brain is so important, shouldn’t you spend more time reflecting about it and using it to reflect positively about life?

Yes, it’s my brain asking itself the question.

Isn’t it interesting that the brain is the only thing smart enough to study itself?

The world around you is waiting for you to still your mind and be connected to the Higher Power.

When your mind is open, all it takes is one radical divine thought and you can change the world.

Life is a mind’s game.

If you play the game of thoughts wisely, life will be good.

If you play the game of thoughts poorly, it will be a long nightmare.

On the journey of life, you can lose many things but don’t ever lose your mind.

If you lose your mind, you will lose everything.

The worst prison is the prison set up by the mind.

On the other hand, when you put the mind to good use, you will have a taste of paradise.

Do not just be a student or spectator of history.

Use your mind wisely to be a co-creator and collaborator in writing the pages of history.

Go4It!

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Be Grateful

I’m grateful that I was born in a poor family. It grounded me to the realities of life.

I’m grateful that I was blessed with ADHD. It inspired me to cope with it and with many other setbacks in life.

I’m grateful that I did not excel in my studies. It empowered me to connect with ordinary people.

I’m grateful my parents could not afford to give me a university education. It compelled me to learn throughout my life and complete a doctoral degree.

I’m grateful that I went through one of the toughest courses in the army. It strengthened me to face problems and challenges.

I’m grateful that I’m not smart and so I worked harder in the workplace. Working hard helped me to rise through rank and file to become executive chairman of an MNC.

I’m grateful that I failed badly when I first became an entrepreneur. It developed a never-give-up spirit in me.

I’m grateful that at the peak of my business, I crashed and lost everything. It forced me to redesign the business model and eventually listed the company on Singapore Exchange.

I’m grateful that I went through a few near-death experiences. They helped me to value life and aspire to live it to the fullest.

I’m grateful that I was kidnapped. It awoken me to realise what matters most is our Creator and the people around me.

I’m grateful that I went through many painful experiences. It enlightened me to understand and reach out to the least, the last, and the lost.

I’m grateful for my life. It helped me to enjoy every passing moment.

What are you grateful about in your life?

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Failing Your Way to be Wealthy

There was an evening scene that I’ll never forget for the rest of my life.

A living room in a resort in Langkawi, Malaysia. Six of us were sitting around a table and deep in a discussion.

There were looks of despair, fear and helplessness – three potent emotions that when mixed together would drive anyone down an emotional spiral.

Prior to that moment, I had given everybody a summary of our business’s strategic and financial positions.

The prognosis was not good. In fact, my conclusion was that we had come to the end of the road.

Some years before that painful evening, we had founded a technology company during the dot-com boom.

At the initial stage, our start-up had big dreams, great promises and you could say, staggering achievements too.

Within a short period, we had thousands of clients paying us a decent fee. They came from more than ten countries.

That achievement was unprecedented and almost record-breaking.

Most dot-com companies were providing freebies while chasing eye balls. They had never quite expanded beyond their home and neighbouring countries.

We were certainly on a roll. It seemed like nothing could stop our technological juggernaut.

Then came the dot-com crash in 2001. By then, we had many copycats.

Meanwhile, there was a wave of disruptive innovations that turned our “radical innovation” into a normal proposition.

We were facing multiple disruptions on many fronts and throughout the value chain.

There was no more road ahead of us.

We were facing untamed jungles and they were looming over us in a hostile way.

That night, there wasn’t even a single star on sight to guide us forward.

After my short message, there was a deep silence. It was like an avalanche that had suddenly buried us up to our necks with snow.

The initial coldness was gradually biting deeper and deeper into our being.

After what seemed like ages, I finally broke the silence.

“We have no other choice. So far, we have invested more than $4 millions into the company.

“We can’t go on pouring money into a deep dark well. Let’s close the company.”

The proverbial guillotine was released.

In this case, our life was not taken away in a split of a moment.

The worst happened.

We felt like our baby was forcibly taken from us and the sharp blade had cut through our hearts.

After that meeting, you could imagine how all of us had walked out of the door and into the darkness of the night.

What was more painful was that we were gradually being swallowed by the darkness in our spirit.

The next few days, I was a tormented soul.

I couldn’t get my brain to face my heart or for that matter, any other part of my being.

Shortly after, my team and I decided to fight back. We believed that we have many more fights left inside us.

We decided not to run away from disruptive forces. Instead, we would take them by the horns.

We would beat our way through hostile jungles until we can build a bigger and better road to freedom.

Long story short, our company went on to recover our losses. We stopped the bleeding and became one of the most profitable dot-com companies.

We eventually became the seventh fastest growing company in the Asia Pacific region according to Deloitte & Touche in 2005.

From this and many other experiences, I realized that failures do not have to be millstones around your neck.

They can be stepping stones to help you achieve greater successes.

Failure is part and parcel of a successful life.

The only way to avoid it is to live for nothing and do nothing.

Life would not be worth the living.

Failure acts as a signpost on the journey to success.
It is a good servant but a bad master.

When we take failure by its horns and respond to it positively, it can change the way we live our life and put us on track to success.

Importance of failures

  1. Failures are feedback to correct us and help us learn and improve.

Failures provide feedback to help us learn and improve.

They can invoke a commitment for positive attitude, character and behavior, all of which qualities are essential for achieving success.

As mere detours on the journey of life, failures can correct us so that we can achieve better results.

They compel us to develop new knowledge and skills.

  1. Failures help us inculcate positive values and bring out the best in us.

Failures can also help us inculcate many positive values. They include humility, self-regulation, grit, and resilience.

These values can stay with us long after we have forgotten many classroom lessons. They can bring out the best in us.

  1. Failures can help us develop vital qualities to achieve success.

Failures are a much better teacher than success. To be a winner in life, you need to go and grow through every failure.

Failures spur us to reflect on desired outcomes and drive us to resolve whatever challenges so as to achieve them.

If we learn from a failure and act on its powerful lessons, we can bounce back from any fall and rise up higher than before.

We can rise up as wiser and stronger persons.

We can be shaped and moulded for a higher calling and greater achievement.

How then should we respond to failure?

  1. Prepare for failures and respond proactively.

To be successful, we need to learn how to fail successfully so as to achieve enduring success in our life.

If we live without preparing for potential and possibilities of failures, we cannot live effectively.

Successful people prepare for contingency plans to manage potential changes and scenarios in the future.

In fact, the more we stretch ourselves and go further in life, the higher are the probabilities of going through a failure.

We need to prepare for failures. More importantly, we need to develop skills to handle failures and respond to them proactively.

  1. Develop a failure-proof mindset – a mindset to go and grow through every failure.

There is nothing wrong with failure. It’s how we respond to it that makes it good or bad.

We can grumble, grouse and gripe about it. As a result, it can dim our view about life.

That’s what happened to many people.

Tragically, there are people who are defeated before they experience a failure and even before they leave their house.

They feel more comfortable to choose an easier option than face a challenge in life.

Many are more inclined to stay on or go back to their old ways.

They have already failed or chosen to fail in their mind and that is one of the worst failures.

We can turn the tide by developing a failure-proof mindset – a mindset to go and grow through every failure.

It starts with a choice – a choice to see failure as an opportunity and not as a problem. A choice to take massive action to turn a failure into a feedback to make us a better person.

Remember, failure is not final unless we fail to learn from it and press on to a higher level of achievements.

  1. Take full responsibility for failure.

Take full responsibility for any failure.

Responsibility is made up of two words – response and ability.

In other words, let’s develop accountability and exercise our ability to respond to every failure.

We may not be able to change the challenges. However, we can change our response to them.

We can find meaning in these experiences and benefit from them.

We may not be able to change the situation but we can rise above the situation and find purpose in it.

We can take massive action to live a better life.

Instead of feeling like a victim, we can focus on our dream and not ‘over-dwell’ on the failure.

We can press on to become a victor in the journey of life.

  1. Overcome fear of failure.

Very often, it is not failure that has stopped many people on their journey to success, it is the fear of failure.

It is unfortunate that when they run away from fear of failure, they also run away from fruit of success.

Failure is only a temporary setback.

It will only become terminal when we give up trying and believing that we can succeed.

  1. Nip failure at its bud.

The path of failure and destruction is strewn with small little errors and mistakes that snowball over
time.

If our mind is open, we will be able to sense the signs leading to a failure.

Unfortunately, they are frequently ignored and are not managed in a prompt and positive way.

The conscience eventually becomes numbed to negative thoughts, words and behaviour.

These actions are hardwired into the mind and they become a habitual way of life, leading to a failure.

That’s why we need to learn from every failure. If we do not learn from it, we have failed a second time and in one of the worst ways.

  1. Press on to dream and succeed.

Life has taught us that the person who usually succeeds is the person who never runs away from a failure.

Winners are people who never give up.

They develop grit and resilience to press on to success.

If we don’t quit, we will never lose.

When we quit, we’re out of the race forever.

The race may seem long but the finishing line is just around the corner.

Don’t give up on your dream. When you continue to dream, failures will be less formidable and easier to overcome.

  1. Learn how to successfully fail your way to success.

Throughout your life, failures can become stepping stones to success and not millstones around your neck.

It can soften you, strengthen you, and enlighten you.

It can soften you in the sense of helping you inculcate humility and compassion.

Better understand and feel for people who are facing challenges in their lives.

Failures can also make you a more empathetic and approachable person.

And strength you to become a wiser and better person.

To overcome failures, put in more effort to strengthen your major life skills.

Improve your knowledge, attitude, skills and habits – all of which can make you a stronger person.

In the process of resolving downsides of failures, you can learn how to persist and persevere so as to achieve desired outcomes.

Become more resilient in facing other challenges in life.

Failures can enlighten you to realise that there are many poor, needy and disadvantaged people out there who are facing different kinds of challenges.

You can inspire them with how you turned failures and downsides into advantages of a higher order.

Serve them so that they will not be left behind on the highways and byways of life.

Instead, they will become leaders for the good of society.

In short, without confronting failures, it’s hard to truly live and succeed in anything.

Please don’t let any failure go to waste.

There is a proverbial phoenix that can soar to the stars from it – and that winner can be you.

Years ago, I rephrased Albert Einstein’s Law of Relativity to create a formula to help people achieve success.

The Law of Success is as follows:

E = mc4

Success is a lifelong journey to pursue excellence.

The good news is that there are multiple pathways to reach different desired destinations of excellence.

To achieve success, you need to develop a synergistic mix of effective mission, commitment, character, competence and compassion.

First, you should pursue a purposeful, electrifying, significant and appealing mission.

If your people do not know what you believe in and are not excited about what you’re working towards, they’ll not follow you.

Second, develop a character that people like, trust and respect. People will not follow you if they’re not comfortable with you and don’t look up to you.

Third, commit your body, heart and soul to love your people and work effectively and efficiently to achieve the best possible results.

Along the journey, you need to continue to improve your competence, including your knowledge, attitude, skills and habits (KASH).

With continuous improvements, you will run farther and faster on the journey to success.

Last but not least, you need to demonstrate compassion, care and concern for people and the environment, including those who are forsaken and forgotten in society.

Your compassion will drive you to run extra miles to value-add to people and the environment and make our world a better home.

Go4It!

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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Let’s Help Our Ladies To Rise Up!

There’s a disproportionate number of women in leadership positions.

We need to press on to find out why we do not have more female leaders and take proactive actions to make it happen.

After all, women hold up half of the sky for us.

More importantly, if we don’t leverage on women’s talents, we may not be tapping on the full potential of our human resources.

We may not be tapping on the strengths of women to achieve greater good for our future.

Having said that, I’m not suggesting that there should be a quota for female leaders in every organization.

Meritocracy should still apply.

Gender equality should not be practiced blindly. It should not affect overall effectiveness, efficiency and results.

On the other hand, not addressing gender equality may cause a cascade of negative consequences.

If there’s no women or a lack of women in leadership position, the organization may have planning myopia.

They may not have a proper perspective of female stakeholders, including employees and customers and get a complete feedback from them,

History has shown that both men and women can be great leaders.
We have seen women proving their worth in formal education, in workplaces, in governments, and in many other organisations.

Many are currently leading major organisations and delivering commendable results.

Women can lead or complement men in fulfilling a mission and carrying out an operation.

However, women still have to break the glass ceiling in many quarters of society.

There are many underlying issues that have not been fully addressed in helping women take up leadership positions.

Truth be told, there are many women who have to play on an un-level playing field right from birth.
For them to rise up to lead, they have to face deep-seated biases and prejudices.

They have to face greater odds to stand out from the crowd and lead in the front.

In addition, they may face other disadvantages throughout their lives.

In many parts of the world, there are still many stereotypes about women’s positions in society.

Women are not generally accepted to lead and run an organization.

They have to work harder to prove their worth and find their places under the organizational sun.

In many households, women are still expected to do most of the work of looking after the households.

They have to juggle their work and personal time with their motherly role of looking after the children.

Sometimes, they have to be full-time mothers and full-time workers at the same time.

In some old boys’ formal and informal networks, there’s an unwritten, unconscious, uninformed and unchanging attitude towards promoting women at the highest levels.

This attitude may be subtlety camouflaged within the psyche and in the culture over a long period of time.

For humanity to progress and take ourselves to a higher level, we need to help women all over the world to expand their potentials and pursue their passions in life.

Let us help them enjoy equal rights and opportunities and maximize their contributions to their loved ones, communities, workplaces and society.

We can certainly do more and do better to help them enjoy their rightful places in leadership positions and in other aspects of life.

Go4It!

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

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