It’s Time To Prevent Yourself From Having A Scarcity Mindset.

It’s Time To Prevent Yourself From Having A Scarcity Mindset.

The scarcity mindset is based on a “There-is-not-enough-and-therefore-I-must-win” or “survival of the fittest” mentality.

To people with a scarcity mindset, life is a zero-sum game.

There is a degree of fear that if they win less, others will win more.

This win-lose or lose-lose attitude drives them to live a me-centered rather than a people-centered life.

They are overly-focused on meeting their own needs without due consideration to meeting other people’s needs.

They want as much things as possible, and they may even end up hoarding unnecessary things.

They are less willing to share their blessings with others and help them improve their lots.

Very often, they fight not only for their survival but they also aim to be the winner regardless of any negative impact on others and the environment around them.

With a scarcity mindset, they unconsciously limit themselves to what they can create in their mind, do with their lives, and achieve for themselves and for others.

Their inward-focus attitude becomes one of the roadblocks to creating success and wealth.

On a bigger scale, it is one of the root causes for poverty, conflicts and wars.

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It’s Time To Move On From Toxic Relationships.

It’s Time To Move On From Toxic Relationships.

A friend whom I’ve known for more than 20 years and I were reminiscing about the past.

There were a lot of pleasant things we could catch up on.

But somehow we spent some time talking about our sad experiences with Tom (not his real name), a mutual friend.

My friend had make a lot of sacrifices to help Tom and somehow, he never took it to heart.

In fact, Tom had backstabbed her on more than a few occasions.

While listening to her, I could not help feeling the same way about Tom too.

Tom was a friend I rather not have and was happy to from my life.

I first met him when he was a salesperson and his immediate superior reported to me in the company.

Tom never felt welcomed by his manager and if anything else, he felt that he was looked down upon and sidelined by his manager.

I spent some time befriending Tom and made him feel that he was an important part of the organisation.

At the least, I made him a little more comfortable in the office.

Subsequently, we both left to pursue different careers.

Tom joined one of our suppliers and once again, he felt that his next manager did not like and appreciate him.

We kept in contact and I was a sounding board for some of his entrepreneurial ideas and offered my listening ears to his grouses and gripings.

While Tom was keen to start out on his own, he never took the first step.

By then, I was running a business and was doing reasonably well.

I offered Tom a job to learn a relatively new business that I had painstakingly started and grown substantially.

I had overcome the initial start-up challenges to achieve a degree of success.

I was not willing to share it with anybody except someone whom I thought I could trust.

Sadly, my trust was misplaced.

To cut a long story short, a short while later, Tom left my company and took some of my staff with him.

Although his business did not quite take off, he ended up working for one of our vendors.

He was eventually caught red handed trying to cheat the vendor.

All these years while I was helping Tom, he was never appreciative about it – not that I expected it from him.

What I did not expect was that he spread vicious rumors about me as part of a deliberate plan to sabotage me and take some of my businesses away.

As I reflected on Tom and the harm that he has done to me, I asked myself, “Do I hate him?”

I searched my soul and I know the answer is, “No.”

Do I carry any resentment against him?

The answer is – also “No.”

Do I wish for the worst for him? Again, “No.”

I actually prayed and wished him well.

There must be reasons why Tom did what he did.
He has to bear responsibility for his life and the outcomes of his ways.

Also, he’s a family man with children.

I pray and wish for the best for Tom so that his children will not have to suffer and be set back in any way.

I have learned that there is no need to waste any energy on people like him.

If I carry any negative emotions against him, it will only affect me.

In addition, it will distract me from pursuing positive values and fulfilling my dreams and callings in life.

People like Tom strengthened me. They made me wiser in dealing with others and managing relationships.

Moreover, they softened me. Instead of being cynical, I want to channel more love, kindness and compassion to needy and deserving people.

Finally, they enlightened me. I am more inspired to fight for the right causes and help to bring about a better world.

If genetic make-up is somehow passed down to future generations, I pray that my descendants will not become skeptical about life and paranoid about relationships.

My wish is for my descendants to be wise in their dealings with others and they’ll know how to resolve negative aspects of worldly ways.

At the same time, they will continue to see good in others and help to turn the world right side up.

I’m grateful to our Creator for the valuable lessons from past experiences and for watching over me.

Thank you one and all, including Tom for teaching me and helping me go and grow through the vicissitudes of life.

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It’s Time To Live The Way.

It’s Time To Live The Way.

Embarrassment can occur anytime. It happened to me many times.

Once I invited some of my colleagues to my house. It was part of a course that I personally conducted in my company.

The objective was to show them how I lived, worked, played and learned in my house. Prayerfully, it would help them avoid my mistakes and improve on my strengths.

It was one of the scariest things to do in my life. Sometimes, I feared they would use my openness and private information against me at a later stage.

So, why did I do it?

I did it as a way of showing my gratitude to the people who have shared their personal life so generously with me. Their acts of friendship and authenticity have enriched my life and helped me to be a better person.

They have paid it forward and I was hoping to do the same. I hoped that others could learn from my successes as well as my failures.

There was another reason for me to open up my home.

I read somewhere that pride could come about when people were uncomfortable under their skin.

Their unhealthy self esteem could drive them to seek unnecessary attention and acceptance. It could also drive them to believe their views were always right and they were better than the people around them.

I hoped that by being transparent, I could learn to be at peace with myself. In recognising my weaknesses, I would learn to be more humble and motivated to improve myself.

Back to my story, I received my colleagues that day with a degree of trepidation. As usual, I started the class by explaining how I would normally start a new day.

I was of the opinion that if you could start the day right, your activities could proceed more smoothly. If not, everything might be inclined to go downhill.

Hence, I believed that my first appointment every day should be with our Creator and myself.

At one point in the training, I wanted to show them my kitchen, refrigerator and cupboards. I took pride in my endeavor to live healthily and wanted to inspire them to do the same.

Usually, I would not prepare for this part of the lesson. I aimed to be real and transparent about my lifestyle.

There was an embarrassing moment when to my surprise, I found many chocolates, candies, cookies, and ice cream in my kitchen. I had forgotten that in recent times I had received many of them as presents.

My colleagues might not have realized the feelings that was going through me.

Fortunately, I had a divine inspiration to turn it into a learning lesson for myself as well as for them.

I wanted to be transparent with them. I told them, “Do I eat them? Of course.

“Am I constantly tempted by them? Most definitely.”

“How did I deal with these issues?

“I decided long ago that I needed to develop an effective plan and system to respond to them. Discipline myself and ensure I would not give in to temptations.

“For example, I have conditioned my mind to eat healthily. I make it a point not to buy unhygienic food or even come near to it.

“And decide what I want to eat before each mealtime.”

As I reflect on that training, I relearn a powerful lesson for effective leadership.

You will influence your people more effectively through your life than through what comes out of your mouth.

Whether you like it or not, you will lead by example.
Your people will follow what you do more than what you tell them to do.

How you live your life will eventually become the main curriculum and method for influencing and training your people.

By your deeds, you will mould and shape your people and the direction of your team.
Your behavior is more impactful than all the beautiful messages that you can craft and communicate to them.

If you cannot lead yourself, you cannot lead others.

The quality of your personal results will determine the quality of your team’s results.

Seek to be the leader that your people want to follow.

People will not follow a leader if they don’t like, trust and respect him.

In short, aim to be the living lesson for your team.

Do what you tell them to do and aim to do it in a better way.

Your life should be the real-life examples to support and illustrate your messages.

How then should you set good examples?

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A Real-Life Love Story

A Real-Life Love Story

I like to share with you a very touching story – a real-life love story.

Ah Seng (not his real name) is a “garung guni” man and he sold mainly cardboards for a living.

To some people, he was a nuisance because he would carry them into his HDB flat or leave them along the corridor.

I wished they knew the true story of his life. I knew because I spent some time with such peddlers and other labor-intensive workers.

In his spare time, Ah Seng could be seen pushing his wife in a wheelchair.

If you happened to meet them, it would not be difficult to feel their affection for one another.

What many people did not know was that his wife had to go to the National Kidney Foundation regularly.

Her kidneys were not functioning properly and she had to be on dialysis.

Ah Seng toilled under the hot sun to eke out a living for each other and to pay for medical fees.

Sometimes, he would be seen working in the evening.

His plight has caught the attention of his MP and grassroots leaders.

They have tried again and again to help him live a normal life.

Each time, Ah Seng would reject their kind offer.

He insisted on working and did not want any sympathy or assistance – whether it was from the government, a charity organisation, or an individual.

All that the grassroots leaders could do was to make it easier for him to run his business.

Now and then, they helped him find cardboards and then, they would stay out of the way so that he could do his job and earn his keep.

What touched me most was Ah Seng’s love for his wife.

I have seen him knelt besides her and conversed so gently with her and it was such a moving experience.

When they fed each other, my heart just melted.

Question: How many lessons can we learn from this real-life story? (No political comments please).

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It’s Time To Teach Others.

It’s Time To Teach Others.

My mind travelled back in time, bringing me back to a small little village.

The lights were dim, the air humid.

A group of people, ordinary looking people were sitting closely together – rows after rows in a classroom setting.

All eyes were in front, their minds transfixed as the training facilitator recounted crises and shared about failures in his life.

I know this scene well because I was that facilitator.

This and other similar experiences were an important part of my life.

It was an integral part of my social missions and I believed passionately in it.

I spent a large part of my life traveling to remote villages to share leadership skills and inspirational messages with the strangest of people.

To me, education is one of the greatest equalisers in life and by doing my small little part in this area, I was confident it would help disadvantaged people improve their lots and enhance their quality of life.

While I had noble intentions to help those small villages, I have also benefited immensely by learning from them.

By learning together about life skills, it has brought immense joy and fulfillment to my life.

Strangely, I have never had close to any of such feelings even when I spoke to a bigger crowd.

There was no similar sense of satisfaction when I addressed more “distinguished” people and in a classier setting.

Throughout my adult life, I have conducted presentations with great leaders such as Harry Reid, Tony Blair, Bill Clinton, Bob Hawke, and Paul Kesting.

They are some of the most powerful leaders in the political arena.

I have taught at the National Speakers Association, the body that represents many of the best platform speakers in the world.

I have shared the stage with world-class speakers such as Robert Kiyosaki, Brian Tracy, Tom Hopkins, Jay Abraham, and Anthony Robbins.

Delivered speeches in a conference that attracted more than 20,000 people from all over the world.

And spoken to a conference of more than 30,000 in a football stadium.

Obviously, as a co-founder of arguably the largest seminar organizer in the world, I have been fortunate enough to share the rostrum with some of the greatest gurus and trainers of our times.

And conduct both “live” and online trainings to people from more than 60 countries.

Still, those experiences didn’t thrill me and uplift me as much as when I taught in small villages.

Oftentimes, I had to use very much less sophisticated modes of travel to reach those places but I considered them to be part of an exciting adventure.

Recently, during a sharing with volunteers of charity organizations , I asked them a question:

“Are you serving the people for yourself or for them?”

I believe that a more balanced answer is not based on a either/or but both/and response.

While we are rendering help to others, we’re also helping ourselves.

The benefits of helping others far outweigh financial and other material benefits.

While teaching village leaders, I have come to realize that I learned the most in class.

A great way to learn is to teach others.

Through teaching, it can help you to change, improve, and achieve better results in life.

To all of you out there who gave me a chance to share my life with you, thank you.

I’m eternally grateful for the life-changing experience.

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I Have Found A Sure-Fire Way To Succeed…

I Have Found A Sure-Fire Way To Succeed…

Do you like to have a sure-fire principle for success?

Many of my friends will tell you that I’ve been an ardent student of the art and science of success.

Over the years, I have invested more time, more money, and more energy to learn about success than many ordinary persons-on-the-street.

I have attended many trainings and completed more than nine programmes on a tertiary level to seek the elusive truth about success.

I have read about five books every month for years and years and countless number of magazines and other publications to find the formula for success.

For years, I have travelled all over the world in search of gurus to learn from them.

I have invested an untold amount of resources along the way.

Fortunately, with the advent of the Internet, I found a better and cheaper way to tap wisdom of experts down the ages.

In my quest to find the secret of success, I have found an effective principle for achieving success.

Please ask me what it is.

Okay. Since you asked me, I will share it with you.

To Be Successful,…(drum roll please)…

…Don’t fail.

By all means, pursue success.

At the same time, position yourself such that you will never fail.

To succeed, you need to prepare for, prevent, and respond to failure.

You cannot be failure-proof if you do not realise that failure may just be around the corner.

Along the journey of life, there will be puddles, pitfalls, and potholes of failures.

It’s a paradoxical truth that If you don’t think you will fail, you will never want to change.

Professor failure is one of the best teachers of success.

The potential and possibilities of failure is the best driver to learn, improve, and achieve sustainable success.

In short, failures are signposts on the journey to success.

Therefore, learn to successfully fail your way to success.

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13. Happy Mother’s Day (Sunday, 13 May, 2018) – Only A Woman

13. Happy Mother’s Day (Sunday, 13 May, 2018) – Only A Woman

Gentle, firm; tender, tough
Only a woman is good enough
In this world of adversities, without a woman
We helplessly surrender to human frailties

A woman, mother, sister, wife
Makes life a prize, takes away strife
Her true worth can find no words
She is Heaven’s angel on errands to the world

She carries upon her the mantle of charity
Of love unfailing, service to humanity
She gives of herself without hesitation
To make each day a happy occasion.

Women take many different roles,
Their worth is more than bars of gold.
A woman is a wife, a daughter, and a mother
Many times she also stands in as the father.

Despite the good that women can do
Sincere thanks they receive a few
When what women deserve is the highest veneration
For all they do with selfless dedication.

Women have fought discrimination and inequality,
In a cruel world, they have no impunity.
Stereotyped as the lesser ones
In some societies, their rights are none.

Women took the lines to fight and find,
Battling their way to prove they can survive
Their one place in society,
Even as they shine in roles many.

Today, I give tribute to the woman who brought me to life,
My mother who overcomes life’s strife.
To all mothers, we look up to you
If not for you, we may not have pushed through.

A mother is the most patient being,
Her heart is strong and giving.
Juggling home, work, and her children
She gives her best without waiting for compliment.

In their wombs, our mothers carried us,
Not minding labor pains when it was time to rush.
In childbirth, a woman’s suffering doesn’t stop,
Teaching, disciplining and cheerleading are part of her job.

A mother would impose her rules
To save her children from being a future fool.
Protecting her children is her ultimate goal,
With values and virtues, her children she would mold.

Her arms are always open for children to rest and nestle,
When life throws challenges and they have to hassle.
Not one day, a mother will turn away,
Her shoulder will be there for those who stay.

Women continue to shower the world
with acts of compassion and full of love
I salute all the women in the world
who fight for their rights,
to make the world bright.

Today, as I express my deepest gratitude to my mother,
This, I ask you to ponder:
Stop women’s violence and abuses,
Protect them, our world’s angels!

Violation and oppression cannot be part
Of a woman’s world any longer,
Let us put our acts together.
Let us rise up against the cruelties
To women from all societies.

For the sake of our mothers, daughters, sisters and women friends,
Let us ask for change; end the violence!

Today, I pay tribute to my wife, mother and godmother.
To you, my life I offer….

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