Selecting A School For Your Child

Selecting A School For Your Child

This is the time of the year when parents are selecting a school for their child, either for Primary 1 or Secondary 1 education next year.

Undoubtedly, there will be some concerns running through their minds.

I hope they are not unduly concerned about getting their children into a popular school.

I read in the newspaper years ago about how hard some parents tried to place their children in “designer” schools.

One parent apparently paid $3.5 million to purchase a condo just so that they can be near to a branded school.

Another parent downgraded to a smaller flat for the same reason.

It was interesting to read about how a celebrity and her husband volunteered 80 hours to help in their preferred school.

Unfortunately they failed to get a place for their son.

According to the report, they did not even have a chance to ballot for a place in that school.

Usually, for a popular school, it’ll be hard to find a “short cut” to get a place in the school.

Many years ago, I went through the same pressures.

Many of our well-intented friends advised us to place our girl in one of the sought-after schools.

Fortunately, I was pretty well connected. I pulled all the strings so that I could get a place for my girl in what I thought was a “perfect” school.

Our family prayed over the decision.

Finally, we decided to register our girl in a neighborhood school – a relatively unknown school that was located near to our home.

Looking back, we are thankful to our Creator for the decision. It was the right move.

Both of my children had a great time in school. They did well in their studies and played an active part in co-curricular activities (CCA).

On reflection, if my child had gone to a popular school, there’ll be greater pressures on her and us.

She may not enjoy learning and will become overly focused on being book smart and not on being smart in all the other vital areas in school and life.

I learned that regardless of grades or schools, your child can still go far in life.

Truth be told, I wonder when parents strive to enroll their kids in a “designer school,” are they absolving full responsibility of their children’s overall development to schools?

Parents need to take an active and major part in educating and developing their children.

There are evidence to show that when parents get involved in their children’s education and participate actively in school activities, their children tend to do well in school.

The second question in my mind is, are parents more interested to see their children get good grades or in enhancing their character, developing their unique strengths, and fulfilling their passion and aspirations?

As adults, we know that grades may open a door to getting a job.

However, to do well in a career, we need to have many other forms of intelligence.

In 1983, Howard Gardner posited that there are multiple intelligences.

Unfortunately, some schools may have only focused mainly on a narrow perspective of helping students develop their intellectual and linguistic intelligence.

It bodes well to remember that moral intelligence is just as important as intelligence of the intellect.

Altruistic intelligence can be more important than logical intelligence.

Taking action is more important than just acquiring information.

The third and key question in my mind is, will children who go to a “designer school” be pressured to focus on just achieving good academic results?

After all, without good academic results, these schools may not have become popular in the first place.

The danger is that these children may fail to see the forest from the trees.

They may not be inclined to pursue a holistic, balanced and effective education, and to develop major life skills.

These life skills may be more important in helping them succeed in life.

For example, these children may not strengthen their emotional intelligence.

In their battle to get good grades, they may not develop love, kindness and compassion for those who are poor, weak, and disadvantaged.

It is more important to take a more proactive role in loving and nurturing your children than focusing on schools, and being book smart and achieving good grades.

Be an active coach, counsellor and cheerleader in helping your children find joy in learning and passion in learning how to learn.

Be mindful that the purpose of education is to raise your child to be a moral, responsible, wise, productive, and useful person.

A person who can contribute to strengthening workplaces, communities, and society.

Address social injustice, achieve progress for society, and live a meaningful, productive and fulfilling life.

There are different pathways that your children can pursue to help them develop their potential and serve worthy causes.

Therefore, help your children to learn how to leverage on their strengths, talents and passions.

Apply multiple intelligences, and not just intellectual intelligence to fulfill their dreams and goals.

Here’s wishing you a purposeful, happy, and fulfilling parenting journey.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on Visit my Inspiration blog at For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at Please visit my website, Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. 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