Eyes On The Forehead – Story #3

Eyes On The Forehead – Story #3

Have you ever had a strange encounter before?

On one overseas trip, I was walking back to the hotel with some friends.

We were walking through a relatively dark lane.

Suddenly, my friend shouted, “Andrew (Not the real name)! Fancy meeting you here.”

We stopped, and I took a good look at the stranger.

My friend and Andrew started talking to one another.

They became quite engrossed in their conversation.

As no introduction seemed to be forthcoming, the rest of us started to walk ahead at a slow pace.

Later, I realised why we were not introduced to one another.

In particular, why my friend would rather that I did not meet Andrew.

He told me much later, “Remember, I told you about a guy who had been bad mouthing you. That’s Andrew, the guy you met at the lane.”

The peculiar thing is – I’ve never met Andrew before.

Somehow, he just didn’t like me and what he know about me through the Internet or some other sources of information.

As a total stranger, he felt that he had the right to criticise me.

And pass judgements about me.

Since I didn’t even know Andrew, his criticism did not affect me in any way.

His words made not a single dent on my being.

However, it made me think: Haven’t we been guilty of committing similar wrongdoing?

How then should you respond to people who criticise you?

Remember, you are not perfect.

You have downsides and have done many wrongs in your life.

You are but a sinner forgiven by the love and grace of God.

Who are you to condemn others and withdraw love and grace from them?

If God does not judge you when you are alive, who are you to judge others?

What give you the rights to criticize others?

From your perspective, you are always right because you are focusing on looking at the other person’s faults and not on your own faults.

That’s why if you are not prepared to closely examine yourself and conduct vigorous research and detailed investigation about the other party, you should not criticise him at all.

Chances are, if you criticise another person about his fault, more likely than not you have also committed or will commit a similar fault.

You are just as guilty as the other party.

As you are not living under the other person’s skin, you will never understand the other person.

You will never have complete information to make a fair judgement.

Over time, with more wisdom, information and life skills, you may even find out that you are wrong in your judgement.

Therefore, let time hold back your judgement.

Better still, don’t judge.

Put full attention on self-improvements rather than on finding faults.

One will lead to happiness while the other will only lead to resentments, frustrations and disappointments.

When you judge others, remember they might have already changed.

By criticising them, instead of helping them, you may be lowering their morale and energy levels.

In the end, you may be causing them more harm.

If people criticise you, don’t take it at heart.

If it helps you, learn from it.

If not, dump it.

Don’t let a negative person or remark stand in the way of your progress.

Give people the benefit of doubt that they have good intentions.

They are criticizing you out of ignorance and without appropriate emotional intelligence and skill set.

It’s good to feel important.

However, it’s also just as important to see the good in others.

Success is about leveraging on strengths and not the absence of weaknesses.

This applies to us and to others too.

When you can see the good in your worst enemy and be thankful for it, you can be happy for many more things in life.

The only time when you can look down on somebody is to evaluate how you can pick him up and put him on the right footing to live a good life.

The person you look down upon may very well be the person who will pick you up when you hit a tough spot in life.

Their friends and people in the know may rally behind you in times of need.

The good that you do to others will be returned back to you in multiple-folds.

Such is the universal algorithm set up by our Creator since the beginning of time.

Go4It!

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on https://m.facebook.com/patrickliewsg Visit my Inspiration blog at https://liewinspiration.wordpress.com/ For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/ Please visit my website, http://www.patrickliew.net Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

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