Conversation With Life

There were conversations that I wished did not have to end.

The more I thought about a few of them, the more I wish I could continue them because there were messages not communicated and files not closed in my mind.

What I am about to describe to you is one of such conversations.

It was a conversation that I had with Mary (not her real name), a young and talented student.

After a group meeting, I offered to drive Mary home as I was going in the same direction.

She was thankful for the offer and had subsequently climbed to the back seat, making me looked like her chauffeur.

The only eye contact that I had and the only way I could read her body language was through the rear view mirror.

As a visually-oriented person, it was hard for me to hold a conversation but still, we had an interesting one.

As the drive was relatively long, we covered many subjects. She was quite open to share about her challenges in the past and aspirations in life.

When we were about to reach her place, Mary told me, “Uncle, you don’t have to drive me into the housing estate. I’m happy to alight along the main road.”

I could not imagine doing such an ungracious act, especially to a young girl.

It would make me feel bad and might even cause me to stay up in bed at night. I love my sleep too much to even consider acceding to her request.

I told her, “It’s okay. I am in no hurry. I’m happy to see you safely home.”

Her reply disturbed me and got me thinking for awhile.

She had said, “When compared to your house, mine is a trash.”

As I watched her saying those words through the rear view mirror, she looked apologetic, hoping the subject would be blown away by the wind.

She was clearly not at peace with her circumstances.

As a 200 year-old dino, I must have given her one of those old-man-trying-to-forewarn-a-young-person type of speeches.

Unfortunately, there was not much time to plan for it and deliver it in a cogent and coherent manner.

I took the trouble to share how poor I was and how I had to go through very much worst circumstances than her.

Up to 21 years of age, I was sleeping literally on the floor…blah blah blah.

Before I could make complete sense of what I was trying to tell her and how I could persuade her to come to terms with her current situation, we had reached her place.

Mary climbed out of the car almost out of relief.

She quickly waved me goodbye, and disappeared behind a concrete wall.

As I reflected on that incident, I wished I had more time to finish the conversation.

I wished I could share with her about how to make peace with life.

Whatever the circumstances we are in, we need to be grateful and thankful for it.

Being contented is one of the requirements for living a happy and fulfilling life.

However, contentment must not lead to complacency or worst, despondency.

Acceptance of the situation must not be turned into apathy.

Being at peace with the situation does not equate to being resigned to it.

Being mindful of our current situation does not mean that we should stop pursuing a better life. In fact, it should give us more motivation and energy to improve our lives.

Success in life is not about having everything you need but about enjoying what you have.

It’s not about whether you go through sunshine or storm in life but how you make full use of the passing seasons.

Every situation that we go through is a classroom in life.

Pain and problems are some of the best teachers. Sadness and sorrow are part and parcels of their curriculum in the class of life.

There is a positive purpose for every moment and there is meaning in every event.

We need to go beyond achieving success in every endeavour to live out its spiritual significance.

The circumstances in our lives are powerful catalysts to help correct, coach and channel us to adopt the right conduct in life.

How we extract the lessons and apply them to become a better person depends on our conscientious choice. It is also a function of our persevering commitment and disciplined lifestyle.

After completing the last sentence, an epiphany suddenly hit me.

What I thought was an incomplete conversation was not between me and the student. It was between me and myself and between me and our Creator.

That conversation and the circumstances surrounding it was designed by our Creator for me.

It was not for a lack of contentment but complacency that caused me to almost miss out an important learning experience.

The trip was to be my classroom and I had almost walked out of it. Fortunately, I returned to class after a short period of time to complete another module of my education in life.

As I blogged and thought about the incident, I realised the conversation with Mary was meant to be a feedback. The purpose was to free me from my ‘mind-already-set’ way of looking at life.

Its deeper meaning was to help me look at the rear view mirror of life so that I can have a clearer perspective of myself and to progress in life.

The significance of the incident has to be captured in my mind and lived out for the rest of my life.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on Visit my Inspiration blog at For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at Please visit my website, Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

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