Why Waste Time With Energy Vampires?

A friend whom I’ve known for more than 20 years and I were reminiscing about the past.

There were a lot of pleasant things we could catch up on.

But somehow we spent some time talking about our sad experiences with Tom (not his real name), a mutual and ungrateful friend.

My friend had make a lot of sacrifices to help Tom and somehow, he never took it to heart.

In fact, Tom had backstabbed her on more than a few occasions.

While listening to her, I could not help feeling the same way about Tom too.

Tom was a friend I rather not have and was happy to (Del) from my life.

I first met him when he was a salesperson and his immediate superior reported to me in the company.

Tom never felt welcomed by his manager and if anything else, he felt that he was looked down upon and sidelined by his manager.

I spent some time befriending Tom and made him feel that he was an important part of the organisation.

At the least, I made him a little more comfortable in the office.

Subsequently, we both left to pursue different careers.

Tom joined one of our suppliers and once again, he felt that his next manager did not like and appreciate him.

We kept in contact and I was a sounding board for some of his entrepreneurial ideas and offered my listening ears to his grouses and gripings.

While Tom was keen to start out on his own, he never took the first step.

By then, I was running a business and was doing reasonably well.

I offered Tom a job to learn a relatively new business that I had painstakingly started and grown substantially.

I had overcome the initial start-up challenges to achieve a degree of success.

I was not willing to share it with anybody except someone whom I thought I could trust.

Sadly, my trust was misplaced.

To cut a long story short, a short while later, Tom left my company and took some of my staff with him.

Although his business did not quite take off, he ended up working for one of our vendors.

He was eventually caught red handed trying to cheat the vendor.

All these years while I was helping Tom, he was never appreciative about it – not that I expected it from him.

What I did not expect was that he spread vicious rumors about me as part of a deliberate plan to sabotage me and take some of my businesses away.

As I reflected on Tom and the harm that he has done to me, I asked myself, “Do I hate him?”

I searched my soul and I know the answer is, “No.”

Do I carry any resentment against him?

The answer is – also “No.”

Do I wish for the worst for him? Again, “No.”

I actually prayed and wished him well.

There must be reasons why Tom did what he did. He has to bear responsibility for his life and the outcomes of his ways.

Also, he’s a family man with children.

I pray and wish for the best for Tom so that his children will not have to suffer and be set back in any way.

I have learned that there is no need to waste any energy on people like him.

If I carry any negative emotions against him, it will only affect me.

In addition, it will distract me from pursuing positive values and fulfilling my dreams and callings in life.

People like Tom strengthened me. They made me wiser in dealing with others and managing relationships.

Moreover, they softened me. Instead of being cynical, I want to channel more love, kindness and compassion to needy and deserving people.

Finally, they enlightened me. I endeavor to fight for the right causes and help to bring about a better world.

I pray that my children will be wiser in their dealings with others and they’ll know how to resolve the negative aspects of worldly ways.

At the same time, they will continue to see good in others and help to turn the world right side up.

I’m grateful to our Creator for the valuable lessons from past experiences and for watching over me.

Thank you one and all, including Tom for teaching me and helping me go and grow through the vicissitudes of life.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on https://m.facebook.com/patrickliewsg Visit my Inspiration blog at https://liewinspiration.wordpress.com/ For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/ Please visit my website, http://www.patrickliew.net Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

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