Comparing Yourself With Others

Living in a commercialized world, you’ll be constantly bombarded with advertisements and promotions to compare yourself with others.

They drive you to either catch up with others or be better than others.

To do that, you have to collect more and more stuffs that can at best give you temporary happiness.

Then, you may have to look out for the next commercialized illusion.

When you fall into the social comparison trap, you’ll realize that you’ll never be satisfied or contented.

You’ll always have unfavorable comparison because there’ll be people who are more successful, wealthier, and more fortunate than you.

Social comparison can cause many negative outcomes in your life.

The more you compare yourself with others, the more negative emotions you would attract into your life.

These emotions potentially include envy, insecurity, jealousy, frustration, and resentment.

Social comparison may even cause you to lower your self-esteem and self-worth.

Make you feel vulnerable and threatened and increase your level of anxiety, stress, and fear.

As you continue to compare yourself with others, soon you may not have a grip of who you are and who you should be.

A sense of guilt and shame may set in and you may not have peace of mind.

Comparing yourself with others may also make you less willing to help others. Your happiness level will decrease over time.

There’s no point in comparing yourself with others.

Break the vicious cycle of social comparison now.

From the words of Desiderata, ““If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

Our Creator has designed all of us to be different. There’s no apple to apple comparison between any two persons.

You are uniquely you and only you can experience and achieve what you can experience and achieve in life.

When you learn to accept and love yourself, you’ll be in a better position to love others and become an asset and a net contributor to their lives.

Be clear that true friends are not attracted to you because of your position, power, and possession. If they are, these are not the kind of friends you want in your life.

When you stop comparing and competing with others, you’ll attract a better quality of friends. And better connect, collaborate and co-create solutions with your friends to achieve better results.

Happy people do not compare themselves with others and they are not bothered with how they compare with others.

They live the best of their own lives and are not negatively influenced by others.

They adopt a healthy way to judge and feel about themselves.

In addition, happy people see the positive sides of others. They have healthy regards for others and wish them well.

They are concerned about other people’s failures and are happy to encourage and support them to succeed in life.

Therefore, love yourself and aim to optimize use of your potential. Put on your best self and be the best you.

Seek to not only remove social comparison but to also live your life for others and to serve others.

In adopting such an attitude, it will propel you to do better with your life.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on Visit my Inspiration blog at For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at Please visit my website, Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

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