Please Stop The War In Singapore!

The General Election (GE) 2015 is over. But the war between some keyboard warriors on both sides is still going on.

It’s time we stop the war or stop the addiction to being on a warpath. It will hurt our country and our people.

In the heat of the campaign, both sides have on occasions been guilty of propagating lies, half truths and misinformation. Both sides have used nasty words in the past.

Both sides are waiting for the other side to stop before they lay down their “bombs, guns and bullets.” Both sides blame each other for a misfire and for restarting the war.

The truth is we are on the same side.

We pledged to be “one united people” so as to achieve “happiness, prosperity and progress for our nation.”

If you will, I like to suggest 10 ways to help us move forward:

1. Check your heart.

The heart of any problem is very often a problem of the heart.

Is your heart in the right place? Are you fighting because you believe you are absolutely right and the other party is absolutely wrong?

Are you fighting to make the other party looks bad and to be converted to be on your side?

2. Fight for peace too.

You can’t be fighting a good war if you are not fighting for sustainable peace too.

There must be a desire for peace and for being a peace-maker. Without such a commitment, there will not be peace in Singapore.

Are you a peace-maker?

3. Manage your ego.

The challenge for most people is managing their ego.

The ego is in essence an over-confidence in and an over-consciousness of your being and an unhealthy attachment to it.

The ego has a tendency to make you think and feel that you are bigger and better than who you really are and better than many of the others around you. Therefore, most people believe that their position and proposal should be better than that of the other party.

The ego needs to be fed but it will never be satisfied. In fact, if it is not effectively managed, it will become hungrier and it will grow until it becomes bigger than you.

Is your ego in check?

4. Have a proper perspective.

It is important to have a proper perspective of the people and the world around you.

If you hold on to an ethnocentric perspective and insist that you are always right, you can never resolve any challenge. You can never build a closer relationship with others.

Is your perspective of politics and the GE standing in the way of truth?

5. Believe that you can be wrong.

If you want peace and progress, you must stop believing you are always
right.

Stop the desire to criticize, control, and insist that others must buy into your belief and go your way.

Do you need to be accepted, approved, and affirmed at all times?

6. Take responsibility for being wrong and making it right.

Breakthrough in achieving peace and success very often happens when you dare to say that you have been wrong before and therefore, you can be wrong again.

There are always better ways to achieve better results and you must be open to accept them. Or perhaps, there are lesser evil that you need to adopt because we live in an imperfect world.

The better ways are sometimes brought up and directed by others.

Are you open to the idea that the other party can be right and has a better perspective than you?

7. Stretch out to others while letting others stretch out to you.

Do not just expect others to understand us. Seek to understand them first.

Stretch out your hands and build better bridges with the other party while allowing the other party to do the same to you.

Do you seek to understand the other party?

8. Keep your cool.

In whatever situation you are in, don’t  lose your cool. It will affect your reasoning and mindset.

Focus on principle not not on personality, the subject matter and not subject each other to any form of negativity.

As fellow members of the human race, don’t attack or seek to harm one other. Avoid taking things personally and calling each other names.

How can you control your emotions in the heat of the moment?

9. Speak the truth in love.

Verify the evidence and rationale of your argument. Ensure that your views are well substantiated and justified.

Do not partake in lies, half-truths, and misinformation. Seek to achieve outcomes that are positive, rational, and beneficial.

Don’t start or perpetuate untruths, especially about candidates who are offering themselves to serve in public offices.

Such negativity may prevent good people from offering their talents and contributions to the country. We will then be none the wiser or better off as a community and country.

Will you pursue the truth and debate based on the truth?

10. Pursue a positive outcome.

During a conflict, if you throw mud at one another, both of you will become muddy.

Worst, if you spew poison in response to the other party’s poison, in the end, both of you may be inflicted by the emotional poison.

Therefore, seek to offer solution and recommendation.

Pursue objective, meaningful and fulfilling outcomes. Outcomes that will not only value-add to one another but also to the community and country.

Life is already too short for enjoying love, joy and peace.

Why waste more time on unhealthy conflicts?

Why not pursue peace and help bring about a more peaceful world?

Peace is priceless. It begins with each and every one of us.

Majulah Singapura!

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on https://m.facebook.com/patrickliewsg Visit my Inspiration blog at https://liewinspiration.wordpress.com/ For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/ Please visit my website, http://www.patrickliew.net Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

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