Peace On The Net

While there are conflicts and challenges on the Net, it can also be a powerful tool for peace makers and peace-making process.

As long as you have to engage others in cyberspace, conflicts may arise. They can happen to anybody at any site and on any issue.

There are many ways to resolve confrontation and conflict. Practice these skills so as to help yourself and the people around you.

By doing that and showing the way forward, you can start a ripple for positive relationship and friendship. Soon, it can be turned into wave after wave of peace to make our world a more peaceful home.

Conflict resolution starts with the heart. The heart of any problem is very often a problem of the heart.

Your  heart will shape and determine outcomes of a conflict. Desires of your heart will also influence strength of your relationships.

If your heart is not in the right place in bridging and bonding with others, there will never be an amicable relationship and resolution.

To resolve conflicts, there must be a desire for peace and being a peace-maker. Without such a commitment, there will be lesser peace in and around your life.

The challenge for most people is managing their ego. The ego is in essence an over-consciousness of your being and an unhealthy attachment to it.

It has a tendency to make you think and feel that you are bigger and better than who you really are and better than the others around you.

The ego needs to be fed but it will never be satisfied. In fact, if it is not effectively managed, it will become hungrier and will grow until it becomes bigger than you. Gradually, it may devour you.

That’s why, it’s so important to have a proper perspective of people and the world around you.

If you hold on to an ethnocentric perspective and insist that you are always right, you can never resolve any challenge and build a closer relationship with others.

When you are willing to give up your need to be approved, to criticize, to control, and to insist that others must go your way, you can find peace within yourself and with others.

Breakthroughs in conflict resolution very often happen when you dare to say you have been wrong before and you can be wrong again. There are always better ways to achieve better results and you must be open to adopt them.

The better ways are sometimes brought up and directed by others.

Therefore, do not just expect others to understand us. Seek to understand them first. Stretch out your hands and build better bridges and bonding with them.

As you look after their needs, they will also be more willing to look after your needs. When you learn to be others-centric and not me-centric, you can build better friendships and communities.

The opposite is also true – when you seek to serve only your selfish interests, the other party will also ring-fence themselves and pursue their own interests. There will be more unhappiness, disappointment, and resentment.

In whatever situation you are in, don’t  lose your cool. It will affect your reasoning and mindset.

Focus on principle not not on personality, the subject matter and not subject each other to any form of negativity.

As fellow members of the human race, don’t attack or seek to harm one other. Avoid taking things personally and calling each other names.

Attack the sin but not the sinner, after all none of us are perfect. Our views are evolving and can be changed instantly.

Therefore, be gracious to allow others to change and improve themselves and their position.

When a presupposition or a point of view is put forth, question the epistemological basis. For example, “How do you know it’s true?”

More importantly, “How do you know that you know is true?”

Verify the evidence and rationale of your argument. Ensure that your view is well substantiated and justified.

Do not partake in lies, half-truths, and misinformation. Seek to achieve outcomes that are positive, rational, and beneficial.

Start and continue every discussion and debate on the right path.

Be mindful about saying words or taking actions that will cause you to regret at a later stage. Remember, you may not even be able to correct them and set things right for the rest of your life.

During a conflict, if you throw mud at one another, both of you will become muddy.

Worst, if you spew poison in response to the other party’s poison, in the end, both of you will die of poison. Even if the other party stays neutral, you may eventually die emotionally from your own poison.

In the final analysis, even if you cannot prevent every conflict, you can have a more loving heart and a more magnanimous spirit.

At the same time, you can continue to learn, improve and become more effective in resolving conflicts and challenges.

Life is already too short for enjoying love, joy and peace. Why waste more time on unhealthy conflicts?

Why not pursue peace and help bring about a more peaceful world?

Let us do our part to unite people and bring forth more happiness and harmony to the people around us.

Together, let us step up – not shut down; love – not hate; forgive – not begrudge; heal – not harm; unite – not divide; progress – not regress; and be constructive – not destructive.

Let’s leave the world a better place than when we first step into it. If necessary, we can compromise short term personal gains for long term benefits for ourselves and for others too.

Peace is priceless. It begins with each and every one of us.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please ‘Like’ me on

Visit my Inspiration blog at

For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at

Please visit my website,

Please read my reflection and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on Visit my Inspiration blog at For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at Please visit my website, Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: