Happy Mother’s Day (Sunday, 11 May 2014)

I want to share with you about Ma (my mother).

Ma was a young girl from Kulai, Malaysia when she married my Papa. It was an arranged marriage.

They met ‘officially’ only once before the wedding and under the watchful eyes of the matchmaker.

Papa confessed later that he secretly went back to the village and observed Ma behind trees.

Ma saw him but kept it to herself. They both knew they wanted to live their lives together.

Ma had to leave her village for the ‘big city’ of Singapore. Her love for Papa grew over the years but unfortunately, so did the hardship.

Ma had to struggle to help support our family of seven children and an ageing mother-in-law. She worked as a construction worker and laid mosaic tiles for individual homes as well as multi-storey buildings.

In the days of old, Ma had to walk up and down buildings every day and oftentimes with a box of floor tiles.

She would come home tired, sweaty and with dirt all over her body, but there would be no rest waiting for her.

She still had to do a lot of housework for the family. Yet, I have never heard her grumble about sacrificing for the family.

It was as if she had accepted her lot.

It was only years later, when I became a father, that I realized she did it out of love.

As a traditional Chinese mother, she did not articulate her love but it was felt by all of us. She gave us all her love and still, there was more to give and more than enough for all of us.

Years later, it dawned upon me that it was in Ma’s womb, I first found the security to face the world.

Through Ma’s heart, I found the love to share with others.

On Ma’s lap, I found courage to challenge the odds and fulfill my calling.

I have never seen my parents quarrel with one another. They had an understanding that they would settle all their differences in bed and behind closed doors.

They would never carry any of their problems out of the bedroom, and especially when they were with us.

While Papa might burst out in anger and air his frustrations every now and then, Ma kept the pain and sorrow in her heart and would not allow them to affect us.

The fondest memory of my parents was watching them trying to slip out of the home in the middle of the night for supper and to spend time with one another.

I could feel their love and joy when they returned from their ‘escapades’.

I was sure Papa had many flaws but Ma loved him anyway. She had never complained about him and would stand by him all the time.

One tragic day, Papa had a sudden heart attack. He collapsed besides Ma and passed away almost immediately.

It was heart wrenching to see Ma after Papa left her. It virtually tore the soul from her.

Ma lost her only lover, companion and friend.

She lost, more than anything else, the essence of her heart and it took a long time before she could recover from the tragedy.

I felt Ma’s grief, a deep-seated sorrow that she and she alone had to bear.

Once again, she bravely suppressed the pain in her heart as she frantically arranged the final farewell for all of us.

It was only when everybody had left, Ma wept.

She cried softly and painfully to herself.

Later, Ma had to get rid of everything in her bedroom. She had to move to another room.

She could not bear the pain of seeing anything that reminded her of Papa.

Every now and then, she would break down in tears.

I have not seen a greater love between two persons of my parent’s generation. They were an amazing couple and through their love, they taught me what it meant to love unconditionally and to love right to the end.

Even though we were poor, there were always laughters when Papa and Ma were around.

As a poor family, we might not have the luxury of time on our side but still, we spent many happy days together.

Papa and Ma gave me beautiful memories that I will always treasure throughout my life. There were nostalgic moments that I will always hold dearly in my heart.

They inspire me to create magical moments for for the people around me. I want to help produce great memories for them.

As an entrepreneur, one of the best gifts I can offer to my clients and colleagues are pleasant and lingering memories of their experiences with me. I hope they can always look back and recall the good times we spent together.

Seasons may change. Seas will rise and fall. Winds will always come and go but I know Ma’s love will always be there for me.

There’s nothing I can ever do to repay all that Ma has done for me. I can only say from my heart, Thank You.

May this Mother’s Day be a special day for all mothers and grandmothers. I pray that they will always enjoy love throughout their life.

May God bless them with well being in every area of their life.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Go4It!

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/

Please visit my website, http://www.patrickliew.net

Please read my reflections and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!

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About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on https://m.facebook.com/patrickliewsg Visit my Inspiration blog at https://liewinspiration.wordpress.com/ For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/ Please visit my website, http://www.patrickliew.net Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. Life is FUNtastic!

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