Becoming A Self-Directed Learner – Part 2: Self-Empowerment.

The second step to becoming a self-directed learner is to develop self-empowerment.

Our Creator has designed your children to have a tremendous amount of potential. They have a huge reservoir of creativity, talent and energy to explore different possibilities to achieve success.

I believe it was Glen Doman, best-selling author of a series of child-development books who said that all children are born to be a genius. The problem is we tend to “de-geniused” them.

Our job is to empower them to develop self-empowerment. The way to do it is by helping them to develop a framework and tools to empower themselves.

For example, they must know how to develop a learning plan and implement strategies to turn the plan into a reality.

In other words, they need to know where they are (situation), where do they want to get to (goal), and how to get there (strategy and action plan).

Through it all, they must find learning to be fun, exciting and fulfilling. It is an important FUNdamental to improving learning performance and results.

In other words, please do not stress your children unnecessarily. Help them enjoy the learning process and find joy and meaning in it.

There are four basic steps to developing self-empowerment.

First and foremost, it’s important to note that empowerment begins with helping your children to know themselves.

As parents, we need to help them accept but not be resigned to their weaknesses. They should be grateful and thankful for their strengths and be able to leverage on them to achieve learning success.

Self-directed learners are mindful of their situation. They are constantly monitoring and evaluating their experiences. They journal their thoughts and feelings about daily lessons.

More importantly, they craft and change their views on how to improve themselves.

Observing performance and reflecting about it is an important tool to improve standards and outcomes.

This tool is commonly used by top performers in different disciplines.

Dancers look at themselves in the mirror. Athletes record their performance and evaluate themselves.

Good writers review their work. Scientists repeat their experiment and take notes of the outcomes.

The underlying principle is that your children cannot progress without a sense of mindfulness. They must learn to be truthful to themselves.

I’m sure you’ve met people who struggle with their life and they don’t know and won’t accept that they are struggling because of their weaknesses.

Psychologists call it “self denial.” They either overestimate or underestimate themselves.

Sometimes, they can also become overly-conscious with themselves. This is a negative trait that will impede the progress of a self-directed learner.

For example, there are children who say to themselves, “I’m too good for everybody.” On the other end of the polarity, there are children who lament, “I can never make it.”

Another issue is that many children justify their shortcoming. Sometimes, they give excuses and even blame others for it.

Secondly, you need to help your children to plan for their learning journey and set goals for every milestone along the journey.

This is to help them keep track of themselves and ensure they are moving in the right direction.

For example, if they want to learn about how to bake a cake. They need to look for someone to teach them. Then, they need to buy a good book about baking to further their study.

They need to purchase the right equipment and ingredient. Finally, they need to start with baking a simple cake and gradually move to baking something more complicated.

For every milestone, you need to help your children to develop the right
strategies, tactics, and action plan to achieve it.

Thirdly, they need to take action to execute the plan. At the same time, they need to evaluate their action, monitor their progress, and change accordingly.

For example, they may need to change their learning goal or strategies to achieve the desired aspiration.

They have to ensure that they do not revert to their former strategies and behavior especially because they are familiar with them. Some of these behaviors could have been so ingrained in their life that they have become a habit.

In the process of improving themselves, there may be new issues and problems. Your children needs to resolve them and incorporate lessons from them into the ever-improving action plan.

Last but not least, help your children to monitor performance and learning outcomes.

If possible, track and measure the progress.

Measurement is the litmus test for achievement and results.

If they have not achieved the desired outcomes or wish to change any part of their learning journey, they need to go through the above four steps again.

President Dwight D. Eisenhower once said, “Plans are nothing. Planning is everything.”

Planning should be an itinerative process and be subjected to ongoing improvements.

With evaluation of current performance, goal setting, effective implementation, monitoring of outcomes, and improvement of the learning plan, your children will gradually be moulded and shaped to
become a self-directed learner.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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Please read my reflections and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


About Patrick Liew
About Patrick Liew Patrick Liew MBA, MSc, BSc is the Managing Partner of Global Enterprise Exchange Pte. Ltd.. He is also the founder and director of Success Resources, arguably the world’s largest personal development seminar organiser and a major shareholder of a company, which is listed on the Australian Stock Exchange. He was previously the Executive Chairman and CEO of HSR Global Ltd., a publicly listed company on SGX-ST. Previously, he was the regional director of the Gartner Group, providing strategic advisory and planning services to governments, banks and MNCs. He was also the regional head of sales and marketing operation for Dow Jones Telerate. Patrick graduated with a BSc in Estate Management from Heriot Watt University, an MSc with emphasis in global business and marketing from The City University Of New York, and an MBA from Henley Business School / Brunel University. He has also earned more than nine other professional qualifications. Patrick is arguably the first person to develop a multimedia e-learning programme on entrepreneurship. He authored a Chinese book on business systems and was also the co-author of a Times Bookshop best-selling book. Patrick has conducted both ‘brick and mortar’ and online lessons for participants from more than 60 countries. He has also conducted keynote presentations in many international conferences, including being the first Singaporean to teach at the National Association of Realtors. Through his team at Success Resources, Patrick has organised educational conferences for prominent leaders such as President Bill Clinton, Prime Minister Tony Blair, Michael Porter, Richard Branson, Robert Kiyosaki, Donald Trump, and many other prominent leaders. Patrick provides leadership and advisory services to many professional and charity organisations. He is actively involved in supporting humanitarian, philanthropic and charity causes. He has organised three fund-raising events and in the process, help to set three national records in the Singapore Books Of Records. Patrick won the Entrepreneur Of the Year Award For Social Contribution, the Asia Pacific Entrepreneurship Award, and six other business awards. Patrick believes the best way to live your life is to live your life for others. The more you reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better your life will become. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A Personal Note to my Friends The articles that I post online; or what I term as Love Notes, are written with the purpose of inspiring readers to live at a higher plane in life. They are also meant to motivate those who are struggling in life and help them find handlers to overcome their conflicts and challenges. It is my ardent hope that we will form networks and alliances of like-minded people who will put to right many of the wrongs in our midst. Together, we will leverage on each other's resources and create a synergistic impact in making our world a better home. These articles are written as part of regular reflection about the vicissitudes of life. They are at best work in progress and at worst, grumblings, grouses, and gripings of a finite old man. I have deliberately decided NOT to delete many of the articles and pointers that I may not agree with or are outrightly wrong. This is to keep a record of how my personal ideas, beliefs, and values have evolved over time. In addition, I hope to encourage readers by letting them know that I also make mistakes and am struggling with many of the complexity and complication in life. As long as we hang on to hope and work on finding a solution, there will be light at the end of whatever tunnel we are in. I do not pretend to know everything or for that matter, anything of substance. In fact, the more I study, learn, and think about the vast wisdom and knowledge out there, the more I realised how little I know about life and the ways of life. Hence, I have always ended my article by asking readers to continue to teach me. For I, too, am a sojourner in the exploration of truth and the adventure of finding meaning, purpose, and significance for my existence. I am proud of and make no apology for being a Christian, albeit not the most exemplary one. I believe our Creator can lead and guide us to be the best that we can ever be. I bear full responsibility for the shortcoming and error in my life, including my words. The fault is entirely mine and not due to anyone else. Readers have and can exercise the power of choice. They can discard what will not work for them and adopt those that can propel them further and faster in the pursuit of better performance, outcomes, and fulfillment. If I have disappointed or hurt you in any way, form, or manner, I would like to apologise to you. Please do not hold them against me or whoever or whatever is related to me. There are much to pray about, learn, and do. And I'll work on them with a sense of urgency. I hold on to the belief that 'Anything worth doing is worth doing with passion and excellence'. I'll endeavour to live by it. Life is short. There's no dress rehearsal and neither can we turn back the clock to change the drama of life. Therefore, by the grace and power of our Creator, let's live a full life and live it to the fullest. May God bless you abundantly on the journey of life. Your online servant, Patrick Liew I hope this message will find a place in your heart. By the way, I have also recorded other reflections. Please 'Like' me on Visit my Inspiration blog at For my opinions on social affairs, please visit my Transformation blog at Please visit my website, Please read my reflection and continue to teach me. 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